My husband continued to make contact with her. I kicked him out tonight. He cannot tell the truth because the truth will expose him as someone not regarded as honest or honorable. Hi I am not married, but i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years now. I just need to know 100% the truth before I walk away i need clousure. Wow. He would even try and hide it, but I loved him soo much I didnt see what may never change with him. One big thing though if you do end up with anyone else in the future, myself and my mates all have the same moan about our wives. Amen. In nov. And we are blessed with 22months old son. Anyways, today I returned his call and found out that he was on the phone when he answered the call, when i asked him if he was busy, he didnt answer me directly, spoke to me as if i was a guy and then he said ill call u in a minute or two. There is no doubt in my mind. He said I wasnt paying attention to him etc. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME SORT THIS OUT SOMEONE.I DID TAKE HIM BACK UNDER THE USUMPSION THAT IT HAPPENES BUT I CANT GET OVER IT WITHOUT A COMPLETE ADMISSION.PLEASE HELP ME SOMEONE..LINDSEY 24, FLORIDA. Although lately I have this same gut feeling I had when I was suspecting him of cheating. This bothered me for the facr she was our neighbor. At some point, though, youre going to need to speak to him about it. But i found out through a friend that they did see eachother, while i was out of town. Really?). The better you know him, the easier youll spot the signs hes lying about cheating. I told him he should have wished her good luck on her last day at work with her surgery and that should have been it.I asked him how many men who come through that line everyday called her to see how she was doing and they probably have been knowing her just as long or longer than he has. I have the same story Except we have 4 kids But nothing is stopping him from cheating over computer or phone . Hes not as interested in physical intimacy as he was before. Today he tells me he cant stand to be with me, and it hurts more to hear that now that hes sober. i run away with my friend. She wants to meet me but i dont know if i want to meet her. I guess when he stops providing Ill probably lose interest in staying with him. Just please help me and honestly I thought about not calling him anymore I used to call him in the morning and he would stay on the phone until my son got on the school bus but now he doesnt do it anymore sometimes I literally have to keep calling him just so he can answer doesnt work for me now would it be best if I didnt call him at all or just continue to do what I have been doing everyday. you have never trusted me is what I hear now. My husband went to Las Vegas the weekend of November 9th November 12th. Is this true that you dont feel safe with him, that you dont trust him? Hi, my husband has cheated on me in the past and I found out through his email and another facebook account he had. I love him so much. He knows my heart knows the truth. But during the last time he moved in, Ive found questionable text messages from co-workers, business cards from a co-worker (who was advertising massages), and while I was pregnant he went to a strip club. He is treating you like dirt, hes taking you for granted, and he will make your life more and more miserable. He said that if I keep accusing him that I will never get what I want from him. He went to work for an independant guy and didnt come home for 4 months. I confronted him n he denied saying she meant before I came into his life. Dating advice for women and men, plus tips for love relationships. Ever since I was pregnant with my first child, he has called me horrible names like whore and slut. PLEASE LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH NOT TO LET YOURSELF BE WALKED ALL OVER!!! Start paying close attention to detail. After they graduated from the University, the girl left for another country but my husband still maintained contact with her. I was 16 and he was 18 when we started dating. My husband worked for a female boss in 2007-2010 during the economic crisis, the company suffered huge financial loss, and she begged him to stay on but stopped paying him. He turns me down most times by saying Im too tired, we can do it tomorrow I promise or your hands are cold. We never fight and we just never have any issues. (Note that this cant be 100% accurate because if a man knows this, hell change the way he speaks, right?). I had noticed earlier that he kept texting and checking his phone. I never asked him about it again but it was always on my mind. I really like the guy & I know exactly why I want to take a chance with him. It seems he doesnt want to be intimate to me emotionally and physically. Overall I feel like this mancation will increase your self esteem and give you a since of having control in this out of control relationship with no intimacy or emotional connection. In this situation, you might hear a comment like: "I know that my husband has been cheating with a coworker. All the text from her were gone, and she worked for him. But for my own self I dont want to do it as I dont really want to read all that trashy stuff. Can you imagine who you could be without your cheating husband, what you can do, where you could go? That instinct being so strong that it gets us into our own set of troubles just as much as your need to have multiple lovers. What does your gut tell you about your husband? It turned out to be one of his ex-girlfriends and she had something she wanted to share with me. Let me share this with you TeresaI had a wife like you with chronic back pain and surgeries and all that. There were three calls and he said he only called her once. When I suggested that monogomy was unnatural by no means was I trying to imply that what I was suggesting was factual or applied to everybody. We all do. I was physically sick. I cant deal with this.please help me. Ive thought about going on Maury for a lie detector test. When a husband says, I know you think Im lying theyre saying Im lying. Since then he was sworn black and blue hes never followed through and it was only ever fantasy to get himself off. A lot of women prefer men as friends as they are less judgmental, often kinder, and more empathetic. I just dont know if I should leave him or believe him. I didnt. Thats a fact. Oh, and when I accuse him and were coming back from physical therapy or somewhere and he gets mad, he just leaves me in the car knowing I cant get out and has our son come get me. You are worth so much more than this!!! He goes out and gets drunk. Doesnt matter. He ran off with his best friends ex wife to Virginia in 2019 and would not answer his phone. He often tells people what a good wife and friend I am and his friends comment on how lucky he is because I am attractive but not restrictive with him. And no amount of talking and making excuses will cover up the fact that we chose to stay with a spouse that cant be trusted. A week ago he left a 2 min voicemail on my phone with him and a girl having a conversation. Its like parenting: everything is easy in theory, but in real life its complicated and messy. What about a man? When he is home, I dont even get acknowledged anymore its like no matter what I feel like Im bothering him. They won't take responsibility for their actions because it makes them feel as though they are out of control and vulnerable. You are the one that counts the most, never let anyone take advantage of you. Sometimes it helps to get an objective perspective on whether your husband is lying about cheating. The only one that he doesnt have is not being home all the time. I really dont need this crap in my life and this is not at all what I had signed up for. He has told me she asked numerous times to eat dinner but he said he needed to be home with me and family. I dont know what to do. You just have to know that in your heart you are a good wife and if I were you I would tell him how to really feel. Get psychologial help. ANYONE PLZ.!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont want him to be thought of as being wipped at work what do you think? That is neither respect, love or caring that they are showing to you when they do this, it is a selfish, self pitying behaviour no matter how anyone sugar coats it. *didnt knwo i could get pregnant* apparently he has a daughter he said died a few days after she was born which i know for a fact is lie but he is sticking to his story, the same about the girl from NC he said he didnt have sex with her. You answered your own question. I caught him looking at porn several times and then caught him viewing it 5 feet away from me. I consider this man my husband and he always talks about when we get our finances right we will get married. Living in the same house , sleeping in separate rooms . Long story short he left me 3 hours away from home and went back home, after he realized he screwed up he called crying. I isolated myself by distancing myself from my family and friends. sure too much is bad, but in most cases it does no harm. Hes been aquising me of things and sneaking around. He even told me I am nothing compared to her, that I suck in bed. I was abused in every relationship i was ever in. He is deceiving her even if he never actually has sex with her, he is making her believe that hes interested. And this same girl is my neighbor so i wanted to confront her but i thouhgt twice and stopped.He comes home late claiming he did over time.I know he is cheating from the looks on his face but i just dont know what to do.Help Please. Teresa, Ive read many posts on this site and believe most of the women posting have a pretty clear example of cheating, or lying, or some sort of evidence. IT MIGHT SOUND SO STRANGE TO YOU BUT IT FEELS LIKE ME WHEN I READ YOURS MY HUSBAND HAS BEING HAVING AFFAIR WITH HIS PERSONAL ASSISTANT FOR ABOUT 3 YEARS NOW AND IT WAS NOT HIM WHO SPILLED THE BEANS IT WAS HER AND WHEN I ASK HE GETS ANGRY AND DENIES IT ALL THE TIME BUT I KNOW IT HAS BEEN HAPPENING THE LYING , WORKING LATE THEY ALWAYS TOGETHER BUYS HIS CLOTHES GOES TO THE CHEMIST TAKES HIS CLOTHES TO THE TAILORS AND BELIEVE ME SHE IS NOTHING TO LOOK AT SHE IS HUGE AND SO OVER WEIGHT AND SHE IS ALWAYS AT OUR HOUSE IM A HAIRDRESSER SO I WORK WEEKENDS SO WHEN I GET HOME SHE WILL BE AT OUR HOUSE TILL LATE IT HAS GOT SO BAD THAT I HAVE BANNED HER FROM OUR HOUSE MY BOYS ALSO DONT LIKE HER IT FEELS LIKE SHE IS HIS SECOND WIFE. Its not that YOURE boring, its that he may not know how to sustain a long-term relationship. I have a boyfriend who i love dearly. I still feel like hes cheating on me. :), I had the same issue with my bf of 4 yrshe was still best friends with his first love, as well as his whole family. We are created with that desire to have sex with different partners because in the endit makes stronger kids. and mind you, there is a differance between lying, and keeping something a secrate, we should all have the right to keep a secret, so dont force your man to lie about something, and worry about whats really importent (is he committed to raise a family with you, will he provide a home, and be there for you and your kids). As, he might have his wedding ring back on, but your marriage is far from what it was and will need a lot of hard work before you both feel close and in love again. That to me is like hes hiding something. My cousin lived with us for one year as house helper, after few months i suspected something between my husband and my cousin, like they sometimes look for each other without telling me the reason, one time we were on vacation and he went home because his reason was of that our business, and one time i saw him running after her when she was about to go home, and many more,. No sex. I have been keeping track of my husbands erectile dysfunction meds and today discovered one was gone and he is planning a business trip to Calgary. If youre really confused and worried about it, I encourage you to talk to a counselor in person. I think he uses people to get things that he wants. In the first year or so he had lied a few times about drug use which caused me to loose trust I noticed he has put a lock on his phone. u said he is drinking probable when he argue with you is becouse he was drunk. He still kept denying it and then I used a triump card which was. Everything he has tried that made some great steps in the beginning.changed jobs, changed cell phone numbers, now has a dumb phone, prayed as a family.all stopped over that last 4 months. I dont understand why my husband is the way he is. So I have been suspecting my husband for a while of cheating on me (maybe more emotionally than physically). He has an addict problem. But I started having that gut feeling of cheating(Nov.2010), even though hed promise & swear theres nothing going on, hed even ask me what proof did I have or where was this all coming from! I does not tell me he loves me anymore even after I tell him. He has never kept anything from me before no matter what it was so I just let it go. When I call that office I only speak to him and would never play such games. I think I am well justified to consider very seriously that I was probably cheated on, and yes, I dont have any hard evidence to confirm it, but the probability is very strong considering the nature of his behaviour even to this day, when anything around the subject comes up. Some apps track location, some keep track of calls and texts, and so on. Their texts began in December, it was now August, they were more and more each month, he called her when out of town before he called me, they texted every day as soon as they left work, he called her on the weekends etc. I said theres no excuse why ur texting her, if she wont leave u alone why are you texting her? Like when we have financial issues he sits me down and always reassures me that we will make it through it. Asked him what he wanted the night before. They don't want to hurt them anymore than they already have. ATT : Lost Are you an Australian resident? Hes got no respect for the marriage at all. He has said he is not sexually satisfied. They were together 5 days a week, 8 hours a day, so he spent more awake hours with her. That is loving yourself and the solution starts there sweetie. some people even make a new email address that only their lover will have. I finally see him for what he is after 10 years together. Youre stronger than you know! He cant remember if they had sex but he feels they made out. We have been together 6. Its funny how he got angry at me for a simple thing like calling him out on a lie about another woman, and turns around to j***-off on p*rn. Danny still visits my girl when he can, once or twice a month or so and when I speak to him my husband gets very jealous and angry. Someone even told me the could be swingers. We had been dating for six months when my husband had to return home for family reasons. It brought back so much pain that I was trying to recover from. 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